Compliments & Insults

Can you take a compliment? I think in person, I blush and cringe, and I retreat to my awkward, bumbling self. But, deep down, I like being complimented. Who doesn't? It's nice knowing that someone noticed something good about you and brought it up in conversation. For some reason, I tend to always return a compliment, even if I don't believe what I say. I know, what a faker I am. I can't help myself. I don't know why I believe everything should be an even exchange.

So I've come to this theory that most people believe a compliment from a friend, family member, significant other, basically someone they are close to, is sort of just a comment in passing, or something positive mentioned for obligatory reasons. A compliment from a stranger holds no obligations, is obtained because the said stranger wants to deliver a compliment simply because he or she may be impressed with your feat, action, attribute, et cetera. Now because we know a stranger never needs to say anything to make us feel better about ourselves, or to maintain a positive relationship, they must really mean what they say. (Unless they're paying a compliment to get something in return...? That's another story.) In turn, it causes us to value a compliment from a stranger more highly than a compliment from someone we actually know.

On the other hand, an insult from a stranger may just be a bully being a bully, a dumbass running off his or her mouth, or a jerk working out his or her own issues. Who cares, right? We don't know this person. If they say something bad to us, let it go, we'll never see them again. So another comment goes ignored. Well you should ignore it, you don't know this jackass. Now when we receive an insult from a loved one, it hurts so much more. You think how could this person that you trust treat you so hurtfully? But nobody is perfect, we all hurt each other. If they're worth it, you work on it and repair the damage.

It's late and I must go to bed, only to wake up at an ungodly hour. Too bad I'm ending this on such a depressing note. Well that's typical of me.

I can't stand idiotic humor

I'm sorry to the creators of 40 year-old Virgin, Hot Fuzz, and most recently Just Go With It. It was ridiculous and to think that millions of viewers are falling out of their seats, laughing hysterically baffles me. I just do not think that it is funny watching people be in awkward situations, or go through unnecessary pain, emotional or physical. In fact, it makes me cringe and I have to look away because it is just too awkward of a situation, or I would die of humiliation if something of similar effect were to happen to me, i.e. if I were a hairy man getting my chest waxed in front of my so-called buddies, OR watching a sad old hag pop one of her implants and then go through the disturbing...scene when her plastic surgeon puts numbing cream on her nipples, and then proceed to flick and pull at her nipples, asking 'Can you feel that?' I'm just watching these movies, staring aghast, practically disgusted, wondering what could be appealing about this type of 'humor'? I can only label this type of comedy as 'idiotic humor,' for lack of a better term. I know that many, many, MANY people out there enjoy these types of comedies, mostly males. I can understand a young boy, not quite mature, maybe one who still has nap time at school, enjoying idiotic humor and choking on guffaws. When it is someone who is in their 20s, or even late teens, I can't quite understand what could be so funny. Maybe guys just like to laugh at stupid things. Yep, it's true and most will even admit it. The more juvenile the humor, the heartier the laughter. When I witness it, I will still have a facial expression with a question mark on it, and partially one of disgust.